A Guide to Understanding the Introvert Mind: Techniques for Social Situations, Relationships, Communication and Career  

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Title: A Guide to Understanding the Introvert Mind: Techniques for Social Situations, Relationships, Communication and Career
Authors: Emma Ace
Edition: 2
Finished Date: 2017-04-24
Rating: 5
Language: English
Genres: PPsychology, Introvert
Level: Entry
Publishers: Amazon Digital Services LLC
Publication Date: 2017-03-27
ASIN: B06XWLT13C
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Pages: 24
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Introvert Edge

A Guide to Understanding the Introvert Mind: Techniques for Social Situations, Relationships, Communication and Career

BY Emma Ace

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Publication Date: March 27, 2017
Sold by: Amazon Digital Services LLC
Language: English
ASIN: B06XWLT13C
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Chapter 1: An Introduction to the Introvert

Chapter 2: Are you an Introvert?

Chapter 3: The Science behind Introversion

  • neural pathways

    • more blood flow to brains than extroverts
    • brain pathway is more complex and inwardly focussed

      • introvert: blood flow was concentrated in areas of the brain that are responsible for

        • remembering
        • planning
        • solving complex problems
      • extrovert

        • visual
        • auditory
        • touch
        • taste sensory
  • neurotransmitters: chemicals that guild messages from cell to cell

    main neurotransmitters

    • dopamine
    • serotonin
    • noradrenaline
    • acetylcholine
    • endorphins

      main neurotransmitters

    • extrovert: dopamine

      but less sensitive to dopamine

      need to produce more of it to feel good

      high level of dopamine is associated with

      • alertness
      • novelty-seeking
      • thrill-seeking movement
      • risk-taking
      • learning
    • introvert: more sensitive to dopamine 所以,我不喜欢competition吗?

      require lower levels of it to feel good

      • if level is too high: overstimulated
      • lower lever is associated with

        • a good listener
        • move at a slower pace
        • prefer routine
        • see the bigger picture before acting
      • pathway is stimulated by acetylcholine

        associated with pleasure

        • long-term memory
        • the ability to think deeply
        • reflect
        • focus on one thing for an extended period
* difference between acetylcholine and dopamine

    acetylcholine: feel good when we turn inward

    **introvert prefer calm environment <= easily turn inward**
  • nervous system

    2 different sides of the nervous sytem

    • parasympathetic side: introverts tend to favor

      • conserve energy
      • the muscles relax
      • energy is stored
      • food is metabolized
      • pupils constrict to limit incoming light
      • the heart rate and blood pressure both lower

        our body gets ready for hibernation and contemplation

    • sympathetic side: extroverts tend to favor

      • brain becomes alert
      • blood sugars are elevated
      • digestion slowed to increase energ

Chapter 4: Play to Your Strengths

Chapter 5: Nurturing Yourself

manage energy reserves

  • learn what activities you enjoy but that also tend to drain your energy

    example

    tried after work, but need to attend party at night

    recharge before attend the party

    • leave work an work early
    • attend a yoga class
    • have a relaxing bath
  • reflect on what type of activities recharge you and make an effort to do them on a consistent basis

    • meditation
    • crafts and hand work
    • exercise such as yoga, running or cycling
    • watch television
    • go for a walk alone
    • play with animals
  • create a dedicated space in the house
  • learn how to say no

    Chapter 6: Social Situations

  • tune in before go out 这个可以做. 这也能作为为什么做事情我要早点到的理由. 太匆忙会很累

    example

    • sit in the car for 10-15 minutes before going into the party
    • listen to calming music while you bath and get ready
  • prepare some conversation points beforehand for chichat

    • help to reserve energy
example

* what have you been working on lately?
* are you looking forward to a vacation this summer?
* have you been to the new store down the street?
  • practice praphrasing

    anxious about what to say next

    solution

    • repeat whatever the person has said back to them in your words
  • take a break

  • pair up with an extroverted buddy

    extroverted friends understand introverts

    extrovert friend might not want to leave as early as you do, best to plan for your way to and from the gathering

  • fake it until you make it

    need a quiet day after any significant social engagement to recharge batteries

  • build self-confidence

    the lack of self-confidence and associated worrying makes introverts expend unnecessary energy

  • make other people feel that they matter

Chapter 7: Relationships

relationships take a lot of energy to initiate and maintain

  • make suggest to go out
  • express needs and boundaries, especially to romantic relationship

    Chapter 8: Communication

这些都可以做
  • choose a quiet and more intimate setting
  • ask open-ended questions
  • buy yourself some time: ask for more time to think
  • create your breaks

    example

    • restrooms
    • get a glass of water

      use the time to gain some solitude and re-center yourself

  • check body language

  • practice

  • set simple goals for yourself

    Chapter 9: Career

  • prepare to communicate

    • the topic
    • questions
    • plan ahead
  • communicate frequently

    • managers
    • team members
talk about achievements and progress
  • use the right medium

    • write email
    • send text messages