The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results

好多都不符合实际情况



Title: The ONE Thing: The Surprisingly Simple Truth Behind Extraordinary Results

Authors: Gary Keller, Jay Papasan

Edition: 1

Finished Date: 2017-05-02

Rating: 4

Language: English

Genres: Self-Help

Level: Entry

Publishers: Bard Press

Publication Date: 2013-04-01

ISBN: 978-1885167774

Format: Pdf, Mobi

Pages: 133

Download: Pdf Mobi

Ch 1: the ONE thing

Ch 2: the Domino Effect


不考虑数量, 只考虑定性: 作者说的Domino effect就是Matthew effect

但数量关系是未知的,不一定是几何级别的, 而且肯定有上限
  1. find the lead domino
  2. whack away at it until it falls

reason: extraordinary success is sequential, not simultaneous

作者的理论: success builds on success 所以一个人永远成功着?巅峰后就不会走下坡路??? 逻辑错误

The key is over time. Success is build sequentially. It is one thing at a time.

Ch 3: success leaves clues

one product, one service

Extraordinarily successful companies always have one product or service they are most known for or that makes them the most money 但在达到那一个成功前, 他们试了很多产品. 逻辑错误: 吃了第10个饼饱了,说: 为什么不先吃第10个饼?
20-80 rules, 不代表其他只产生20%效果的80%努力是白费的

bias: 幸存者偏差
很多公司也做one thing, 是不是都成功了. 若成功, 比例多少? 和做多样产品公司比, 成功比例是否增加?

Apple从本质上就是好的. 因为用linux和unix, 所以安全性上已经很好. 乔布斯独裁, 就会减少很多distraction. 并不是他们没有同时做多件事, 而是不会完全考虑消费者的想法.

one person

one person makes all the difference

天时地利人和, 并不只是一个mentor的作用, 而且作者没有说那些人本身就很有天赋, 有了一个mentor起了加速度

No one succeeds alone. No one No one succeeds only because one factor: only one person

one passion, one skill

passion => disproportionate time practicing or working at it => skill => better results => more enjoyment/passion => invest more time (loop)

Cal Newport不同意passion, 这个loop是部分正确的. 缺乏 自主和control

a skill that led to a profession that opened up an opportunity to give back 也是Cal Newport观点, 做最重要的事情, 只有成功了才能有更多的自主和control, 才能有满足感和更多的机会. 我的观点: 若做最重要的事情失败, 就没有后续了

Part 1: the lies

the 6 lies between you and success

  1. everything matters
  2. multitasking
  3. a disciplined life
  4. willpower is always on will-call
  5. a balanced life
  6. big is bad

Ch 4: Everything matters equally <> 80/20 rules

When everything feels urgent and important, everything seems equal.

do one thing meaningful

a success list replaces a to-do list

def of success list: a list that is purposefully created around extraordinary results 对于我来说, 就deep work list

80/20 principles 我的intuition没法接受. 若一个作家最重要的事情是写作, 他从早写到晚, 最后几个月的工作产生了一篇好的novel, 但不代表前面花费的时间都是白费的. 前面的时间是delicate practice的时间, polish skill的时间. 就好比编程的结果是最后的products, 但之前的训练时间也是需要考虑的.

还是和预言一样, 吃第10个饼饱的人认为当初最好从第10个饼开始吃.

若是一个全新的领域, 只能不停地试, 直到知道哪个是比较有效的行为, 然后坚持.

social media是没有效的

20%$^n$ * (total number of tasks m) = 1 => $m = \frac{log{\frac{1}{m}}}{log{0.05}}$



m: total number of the tasks
n: how many repetition to achieve

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要花很多时间才能得到最终的那个1 steps

1. come up with the list
1. one round 20% left
1. repetition
1. until 1 left

criteria值得考虑

作者的criteria或者说80-20 rule的criteria: 找产生最多结果的1个task (在David Allen的定义下是1个project) Cal Newport的criteria是deep work: 找一个行业/工作最重要的skill来deliberate practice, 最重要的去deep work

区别:

1. 包含的project数量不同

skill和deep work包含多个project

2. 获得结果的时间长度
80-20 rule追求instant results
* 在entry-level的时候不会产生最多的结果, 但是若skill和work达到top 1%, 那么so good they cannot ignore you. 有long-term effect

Ch 5: multiple tasking


human cannot focus intensively 2 or more things at the same time

but can do it if only one task need intensive focus while others don’t.

不需要intensive focus的例子: 走路, 骑自行车, 刷牙洗脸, 洗碗

Ch 6: a disciplined life

success is actually a short race – a sprint fueled by discipline just long enough for habit to kick in and take over

you can become less successful with less discipline than you think, for one simple reason: success is about doing the right thing, not about doing everything right

doing right things 不一定能保证 success
  • choose the right habit
  • bring just enough discipline to establish it
让我想到了deep work书
为了培养focus

要把生活大多数的时间都是focus的, 而不是一小部分时间是focus

同理: 若想培养discipline,不可能就一样事情discipline, 其他事情不discipline.

作者若这样做, 会在一个领域(可能)成功, 但生活其他的领域绝对是disaster

develop the right habit in one field => simplify life, i.e., 生活的其他方面被忽略

高度思想层面的habit, 非常难培养. 若只是一个行为, 还要包括delicate的学习, practice和deep work.

若想成为top 1%, 那么不可能成为习惯. deep work本身的不舒适感是一种习惯, 但每次学到或者练习自己不会的东西的时候, 绝对不comfort, 不可能是在unconscious level完成的, 也就是不可能是习惯

Ch 7 willpower is always on will-call

对我来说, willpower就是我的Te的副产品. 我的Te决定如何做, 然后坚持去做, 就是discipline和willpower

doing willpower called discipline

其实这一点和上一点是讲一件事情 willpower包括想法+行为+结果. 若结果是好的,那么就是有willpower, 若不好, 就会说自己没有willpower
但想法,行为,结果,三者的关系并不是那么简单

willpower is a limited resources but rechargeable (food & sleep)

the more we use our mind, the less minding power we have 但若为了要stretch willpower, 就必须要先deplete, 再继续work

完成willpower的试验后, blood sugar会下降. 难道不是因为身体吸收糖分后自然下降吗?

when willpower is low, ten to fall back on default settings

cliche: 在willpower最高的时候做最重要的事情. 相似的, energy最高的时候

WHAT TAXES YOUR WILLPOWER

  • Implementing new behaviors
  • Filtering distractions
  • Resisting temptation
  • Suppressing emotion
  • Restraining aggression
  • Suppressing impulses
  • Taking tests
  • Trying to impress others
  • Coping with fear
  • Doing something you don’t enjoy

Ch 8: a balanced life 这个观点我喜欢, 也是我最后想明白的

Nothing ever achieves absolute balance

Balance is a verb, i.e., we constantly do

Balance does not exist

我喜欢这个观点

The act of living a full life by giving time to what matters is a balancing act

because: Extraordinary results require focused attention and time => time on on thing means time away from another => balance is impossible

the desire for balance: enough time for everything and everything done in time => prevent from making extraordinary time commitments to anything

extremes => extraordinary

counterbalancing

不理解

the idea of counterbalancing: you never go so far that you cannot find your way back or stay so long that there is nothing waiting for you when you return

example

  • habitual long hours can be deadly

2 types of counterbalancing

  • the balance between work and personal life
  • the balancing within each
看了解释,我的intuition还是不理解

life is a balancing act

the question of balance is really a question of priority

When acting on priority => automatically go out of balance

the challenge: how long to stay on the priority

Counterbalancing is about understanding when to be in the middle and when to go to the extremes.

In life there are three things that need constant counterbalance:

  • family and friends
  • your body and spirit
  • personal needs

表述不同, 但本质和其他self-help的books是一样的

personal life需要shift priority/focus非常快
professional life需要更加长的work来shift focus

也就是shift focus when needed.
根据我的人生经验, 这需要willpower养成高级mind level habit

原文: The key is determining how long you need to be out of balance

David Allen: how fast to shift focus
我的经验: 当决定要做一件事情的时候, 就focus这件事, 但不能一直focus下去. 还是要做其他的事情

GTD’s context: 在家就focus on 家里的事情, 工作中就focus on 工作中的事情.

我的经验: 高层次的mind habit不分work and life

Knowing when to pursue the middle and when to pursue the extremes is, in essence, the true beginning of wisdom. Extraordinary results are achieved by this negotiation with your time.

我的intuition想不出任何的实际可操作方法

Ch 9: big is bad

fear big success

作者的认为我们不知道自己的limit. 他假设我们的limit大于我们的想象

我想到一个范例

我们认为我们的willpower是有很多, 其实willpower比我们认为的limit还要少


think big没有错. 同样, research showed that 当我们从事一样我们从来没做过得事,我们会estimate our abilities. 那么作者的论点就站不住脚

另外, 即使一开始不think big, 将来也可以. 不需要从一开始就想怎样怎样, 随着不停做事情, 路上也可以改变 => 这更加refute作者的想法

这是natural planning model 里的wild success part => big is bad 不是新鲜货

另外一个范例: 小朋友小时候think big, 有多少人最终实现的?

Part 2: the truth, the simple path to productivity

the success comes down to being appropriate in the moments of your life

do exactly what I am doing

不就是关注当下, i.e., do, 而不要过多的plan

也是GTD的想法

我的经验:这需要很长时间的练习,而且不是happy的

Ch 10: the focusing questions

big picture and small focus: right direction and right action

What is One Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

one question和one thing是一回事
实际操作:

当天的MIT 一周的MIT
* ….的MIT

增加了criteria的高度: by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary

其他self-help书没有那么高的高度, 只是问, 什么对我们最重要

Ch 11: the success habit

use the focus question to find


每个领域都问one thing去做, 那就不是one thing了
和其他的self-help书没什么两样

ask the focusing question every day

Ch 12: the path to great answers

若那么简单, 还要scientist干嘛. iPhone不就随便哪个人都能发布了嘛?

answers

  • doable

    already within reach of knowledge, skills, and experience

  • stretch

    within reach, but at the farthest end of range

    作者觉得这种类型就在comfort zone里. 根本就不是
  • possibility

    a totally new answer 作者这本书的内容也不是全新的,应该说都不是新的

    found in 2 steps

    1. the same as when you stretch

      research and experience of others

      “Has anyone else studied or accomplished this or something like it?”

    2. look for the next thing you an do in the same direction or, if necessary, in an entirely new direction
<font color="blue">academic research都用这个方法, 也没见有很多人脱颖而出.

这本书整个就是幸存者偏差</font>

Part 3: Extraordinary results: unlocking the possibilities

purpose, priority, and productivity as 3 parts of iceberg

Ch 13: live with purpose

作者认为our purse determines who we are

大家每个人都在生命中某些时刻,想成为somebody,但大多数人最终还是nobody

2者并没有强因果关系

幸存者偏差

Ch 14: live by priority

  • purpose: where to go
  • priority: how to get there
purpose有时候也是priority, 有了priority也不一定能到达

这到底多脑残才能建立因果关系

goal setting就是David Allen多个level goals

其他很多书都有提到

Ch 15: live for productivity: time block

而我live for effectiveness

time blocking 3 types of things

  1. time block your time off
  2. time block your ONE THING
  3. time block 1 hour on planning time

morning

  1. block time as early in your day as you possible can
  2. 30 minutes - 1hour to take care of morning priorities
  3. move to ONE Thing

作者的recommendation: block 4 hours a day 大多数职业都做不到的, 即使可以, 也有很多disturb

do ONE Thing everyday

protect time block

  • mindset that time block cannot be removed

    “I am sorry, I already have an appointment at that time”

Ch 16: achieving extraordinary results through time blocking requires 3 commitments

  1. adopt the mindset of someone seeking mastery
  2. continuously seek the best ways of doing things
  3. you must be willing to be held accountable to doing everything you can to achieve your ONE Thing

简短地说

  1. follow the Path of Mastery
  2. Move from “E” to “P”
  3. Live the Accountability Cycle
In summary, 就是dedicate practice里的内容, 没有什么新意

1. follow the Path of Mastery

see mastery as a path not a destination to arrive at => start to feel accessible and attainable

mastery就是一种状态, 作者非要看成过一种path

the healthy view of master means giving the best you have to become the best you can be at your most important work 是so good they cannot ignore you的目标

这本就是Cal Newport书里的deliberate practice + deep work
deliberate practice + 10,000 hours 只是practice, 不是creative work. creative work需要deep work

作者总在说productive, 对我来说就是effectiveness不是efficiency

2. Move from “E” to “P”

The path of mastering something is the combination of not only doing the best you can do at it, but also doing it the best _it_ can be done

这是perfectionism, 前提是要有足够的时间做. 这也是delicate practice的找到自己的不足之处(ceiling), 一直练

作者说得好像ceiling想打破就能打破那么轻松. 从来不说若经过多次努力也打不破怎么办, 干耗着?其他事情不做了?

3. Live the Accountability Cycle

active attitude

find a accountability partner 我再也不想这么做了

write down goals and share progress with someone regularly

Ch 17: the 4 thieves of productivity

  1. inability to say “No”

    • say “yes” to ONE Thing
    • say “no” to everything that affecting ONE Thing
  2. fear of Chaos

    When we tirelessly work our time block, clutter automatically takes up residence around us

    Messes are inevitable when you focus on just one thing
    Focusing on ONE Thing has a guaranteed consequence: other things don’t get done

  3. poor health habits

    figure out easy ways to eat right and then plan all your daily meals a week at a time 作者说得简单, 做起来非常难, 他肯定没有自己做过

the highly productive person's daily energy plan

1. mediate and pray for spiritual energy
1. eat right, exercise, and sleep sufficiently for physical energy
1. hug, kiss, and laugh with loved ones for emotional energy
1. set goals, plan and calendar for mental energy
1. time block your ONE Thing for business energy
  1. environment does not support your goals

    读书的时候环境根本没法选, 家庭也没法选. 又是说比做到容易太多了,然后作者就不说什么

    People surrounding you and your physical surroundings must support your goals

    • coworkers
    • friends
    • family
      我能说更多
      当然可以都被归在environment里. 但是这样的话有什么意义

Ch 18: the Journey

  1. write down current income
  2. multiply it by a number: 2,4,10,20. pick one
  3. write down the new number
  4. ask yourself, “Will my current actions get me to this number in the next 5 years?”
  5. if yes, keep doubling the number until they won’t

    putting the ONE thing to work

On the Research



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pick1Thingfor <- function(timeline, upper level goal){
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这是一个很有趣的步骤, 我写成了一个function

还没有看完so good they can’t ignore you, 不知道怎么样把内容合在一起


这也是个很有趣的问题: What is One Thing I can do such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?


实际操作:

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1. pick area of life defined by GTD
2. lifeTime1Thing = pick1Thingfor(life time, NULL)
3. ThreeYear1Thing = pick1Thingfor(3 years, lifeTime1Thing)
4. OneYear1Thing = pick1Thingfor(1 year, ThreeYear1Thing)
5. Quarterly1Thing = pick1Thingfor(quarter, OneYear1Thing)
6. CurrentMonthly1Thing = pick1Thingfor(month, OneYear1Thing)
7. CurrentWeek1Thing = pick1Thingfor(week, CurrentMonthly1Thing)
8. Day1Thing = pick1Thingfor(day, CurrentWeek1Thing) repeat 7 times for each day in one week


从我列的步骤来看, 找出1 thing真的不算容易的事情.

而且这只是生活的一个方面

增加了criteria的高度: by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary

其他self-help书没有那么高的高度, 只是问, 什么对我们最重要

do

time block at least 4-hour work per day
1-hour plan per week delicate practice
* deep work