Dump: What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20: A Crash Course on Making Your Place in the World

好多人都说好

但读了review后才意识到”I wish I knew”类型的书

  • 书里的建议还不是从作者的个人经验里来的
  • 文不对题

    This book has nothing to do with what the title suggests about “when I was 20”. The title is misleading and the book is not as innovative.

  • 只会给个general的rules,没有具体可操作的方法
  • 大多数的想法都在其他self-help书或者名人名言里看到过
  • 有很多故事
  • 书的内容根本没有那么长
  • 作者不会去想法和想法之间的因果关系, 我的脑子又会觉得要自己建立关系很overwhelm
  • 有些想法会矛盾

    比如

    • 有些事情要尽快quit vs 有些事情要坚持才能看得到效果

      碰到具体的事情到底要不要做下去, 还是没有什么具体的标准

我没有被motivated到.因为大学里看了太多这样的讲座, 一点都没有用

我申请学校最后成功是因为我听了GRE老师们的方法,然后一步步去实践这些方法

比如

  • 教阅读的老师: 要写邮件给小米问招生情况
  • 和学生联系要花多少钱才能读完整个program
我自己版本的I wish I knew: focus on doing right things

wrong things是我花了太多的时间思考如何做漫画网站……网上找如何网络赚钱……

结论: 我一点都没有动力看这本书


Title: What I Wish I Knew When I Was 20: A Crash Course on Making Your Place in the World
Authors: Tina Seelig
Edition: 1
Finished Date: 2017-05-12
Rating: 1
Language: English
Genres: Self-Help
Level: Entry
Publishers: HarperOne
Publication Date: 2009-04-14
ISBN: 978-0061735196
Format: ePub, Mobi
Pages: 208
Download: ePub ePub Mobi

summary from goodreads

Tina quotes many examples of entrepreneurs and tells us how they manufactured their own luck by working hard. The very first lesson that you’ll learn from this book is that you needn’t have huge money to start an enterprise - just a cool idea and you can start working on your own. She tells us you can create wealth from almost nothing.

The book becomes quite less interesting towards the middle, because she keeps on describing one successful person after another but you can still read it.

  • if you are 18 - early 20s and interested in a solid dose of Silicon Valley life philosophy then this book is perfect for you. some of the stories are well known and others are very valley centric, but Tina Seelig does a good job of weaving her own personal experience, stories, and friendships into a good philosophy of life book aimed at someone just discovering themselves as an adult.

  • there’s a bunch of short chapters with specific lessons that encourage entrepreneurship (in the broad sense, not the start your own business sense). Essentially, it all boils down to that point; give yourself permission to be good at whatever it is you’re doing, to do better than you are asked to do, and to help others more than you expect help in return.

  • Some of the advice is kinda contradictory (you should quit early…but if you stick in there, maybe you can fix it) and the message is always kinda the same (take opportunities! blah!)
  1. The key to success is not dodging every bullet but being able to recover quickly.
  2. If you throw gasoline on a log, you just get a wet log. But if you throw gasoline on a small flame, you get an inferno.
  3. Every idea has its value.
  4. Find the sweet spot that overlays between our passion and our skills, and how the market would value our skills.
  5. It’s important to reassess your life and career relatively frequently.
  6. Keep a Failure Resume
  7. Competition can be counterproductive. There’s a difference between being competitive and being driven to objectives. Focus more on maximizing our chances through being well-prepared, physically, intellectually and emotionally.
  8. Give yourself permission and break the prison which you built around yourself: look at the world with fresh eyes
  9. experiment failure
  10. plot your own course and test the limits of your abilities.
  11. not turn opportunity down
  12. stop making assumptions
  13. earning from others can significantly reduce your failure rate
  14. embrace problems instead of avoiding them and look at them differently. In the same way, it is impossible to avoid failure, but learn how to turn it into success quickly. The book mentions examples that justify possibility of such cases.
  15. “We can challenge ourselves every single day. That is, we can choose to view the world through different lenses – lenses that allow us to see problems in a new light. The more we take on problems, the more confident and proficient we become at solving them.”
  16. “Passions are just a starting point. You also need to know your talents and how the world values them.”

  17. “[T]hinking about how you want to tell the story in the future is a great way to assess your response to dilemmas in general. Craft the story now so you’ll be proud to tell it later.”

  18. “You have to focus your intention to make something happen by giving at least 100 percent commitment. Anything less and you’re the only one to blame for failing to reach your goals…[W]e’re all so used to generating and hearing excuses…making excuses, or giving reasons for not delivering, is socially acceptable because it makes you sound ‘reasonable.’”

  19. “There is a significant difference between being competitive and being driven toward an objective. Being competitive implies a zero-sum game in which you succeed at someone else’s expense. Being driven involves tapping into your own passion to make things happen.”

  20. to give yourself permission to challenge assumptions, to look at the world with fresh eyes, to experiment, to fail, to plot your own course, and to test the limits of your abilities

The author expounds on common sense and draws simplistic conclusions about life.
The narrative is disorganized, jumping from groundless personal conclusions to random examples drawn from impersonal experiences, each chapter includes multiple different aspects of life and superficial advises that do not tie together under a unifying theme.
The title of the book is strikingly misleading, as the content does not relate to what she “personally” wish she knew when she was 20, nor does it address why one must know these things before 20 specifically.

summary from Amazon

What we know from the book about Tina Seelig’s background makes it clear that she (1) knew exactly what she wanted to be from age 14; (2) grew up with the privileged background that made her success in pursuing her planned career path mostly an eventuality, not a dream (i.e., loving parents who were highly successful and developed and encouraged the habits of success in her from an early age, plenty of financial means, intelligence sufficient to receive a Ph.D. in neuroscience from Stanford, etc.); and (3) has never experienced real adversity and she quite likely can’t imagine what real adversity would be like. Perhaps she just didn’t mention the multitudes of social, financial and physical/ mental/medical difficulties she waded through BEFORE her life of nonstop success. And she certainly doesn’t consider that others might face any such issues when she goes on her “excuses are irrelevant” tirade in Chapter 9.

At 20, Ms. Seelig was clearly more highly-prepared for success than nearly all of us at any age.

  • This book has nothing to do with what the title suggests about “when I was 20”. The title is misleading and the book is not as innovative.